Where do your beliefs come from?
Answering this question can give you some insight as to how much power you feel that you have over your beliefs.
If you believe that your beliefs are inherited from your family and society and can be analysed but not really changed, you might feel that you don’t have too much power over your beliefs at all.
If you believe that your beliefs are “just the way things are” and you can’t think about them any differently, you may not feel you have any power to change them.
But if you believe that, although you may have inherited some beliefs, you can identify them, and also consciously choose whether that belief is one you’d like to hold onto, that is a belief that gives you power.
More choice = more power.
Sometimes, some of my clients find they’re getting stuck when we’re talking about beliefs in a Kinesiology session. They might not feel they have a choice about their belief.
Certain negative beliefs just seem to be “true”, “right” or “correct”.
They don’t yet feel they have any power over them.
So, for example:
“It’s true that I have no willpower”
“It’s true that I’m always surrounded by chaos”
“It is right to try to make sure other people are always happy (even at my expense)”
“It is the correct thing to try and make things perfect, it’s wrong to just let things go”
It might be true.
There are an infinite number of things that may be true about a given situation.
The evidence around you might seem to support it – we tend to collect evidence to support our current beliefs, so this is in fact likely.
Instead of asking yourself if your belief is true, why not ask: is it helpful?
Upgrading your beliefs.
Have a look at some of your current beliefs and ask yourself:
- Is your belief empowering you to change an unsatisfactory situation?
- Does it allow you choice?
- Is your belief setting you up for failure (such as believing you need to make things perfect, or keep everyone else happy)?
- Does your belief allow YOU to change, or does it rely on other people?
You can still be honest.
You don’t need to lie to yourself (or others) about how you currently feel.
If you’re in the process of changing a belief, you might include that in your wording for your new belief.
Instead of the beliefs listed above, you might choose to decide:
“I’m learning how I might increase my willpower”
“I’ve had a lot of chaos around me in the past but I’m changing that moving forwards”
“As long as I take care of my needs first, it’s great if I can make others happy too”
“I’d prefer things to be perfect but since that’s impossible and also exhausting, I’m practicing enjoying them as they are”
Why not try upgrading one of your beliefs now?