Who would really want to give themselves adrenal fatigue?
However, you’d never know that by the way that some of us sometimes behave.
In my Kinesiology practice I work with many high achievers and perfectionists and I get to see the many ways in which we might contribute to the symptoms of adrenal fatigue that a lot of my clients experience.
Are you ready? Want to give yourself adrenal fatigue?
Here’s what to do:
- Set unrealistic goals for yourself.
- Beat yourself up if you don’t achieve them.
- If you do achieve them, don’t reward yourself. Maybe the goal wasn’t as hard as you first thought. And besides, you should have been there already. Set a new goal RIGHT AWAY and get back to work!
- On that point, stay focused on the future. You might be able to enjoy yourself then, if you achieve enough.
- When you’re not focusing on the future, worry and obsess about the past. If you think about it enough, you might just be able to change it (noone has done this to date, but it still could happen!)
- Believe that you’re not good enough. Strive to maybe one day be good enough, mostly for yourself, by working harder.
- Think a lot about what you SHOULD be doing. Don’t worry about whether you want to do that thing, or if it feels good for you. Stick to the shoulds!
- Make “busy” your criteria for success. How are you? “Busy.” What have you been up to? “I’ve been busy.” Just keep going. You’re probably on your way to success! You must be, you’re busy, right??
- Be hard on yourself. It might be a nice idea to be gentle with yourself, but we all know where that ends up: LAZINESS! If you start being nice to yourself, you might never achieve anything ever again. Don’t take that risk 😉
- Aim for perfection, in everything. It might be impossible, but don’t let that deter you!
- If you feel tired, get frustrated and annoyed with yourself, and most importantly, keep pushing forwards. Whatever you do, don’t change your schedule, or rest. That will never make a difference.
- Feel guilty whenever you’re not working (particularly applicable if you have your own business).
- Don’t try anything that might reduce your stress levels, like regular meditation, or yoga, or exercise, or logging off your computer earlier. Nice for some, but there’s no time! And won’t make any difference anyway, of course.
- Say things like: this is just the way it is if you want to (insert goal). I have to work this hard (no matter what the cost). I have no choice.
- Notice that some people don’t seem to be as stressed out as you. Assume it’s probably because they don’t want to succeed, or are lazy.
- Always put other people’s needs before your own. Feel bad because you don’t seem to be meeting everyone’s expectations.
- Say yes to everything. Who knows, you might never get an opportunity again.
- Finally, feel surprised that you’re more tired than you used to be, don’t want to get out of bed, and feel unmotivated and uninspired. Why could that be??
Alas, I’ve actually heard nearly all of these things from clients, and I’ve been guilty of some of them too.
If you don’t actually want to give yourself adrenal fatigue, what can you do?
If you recognise any of the above statements, first laugh about it. Don’t we do the craziest things sometimes? Then start to consider what might work better for you.
Decide you want to do things differently. And start experimenting. What works for you? Don’t worry about what you should or shouldn’t be doing, or what should or shouldn’t “be enough” for you to feel better. Actually try things and develop new routines and observe what does make you feel relaxed energised and happy, and allow yourself to do more of those things.
And check out my e-course Heal My Adrenal Fatigue – we go right into the underlying beliefs that contribute to adrenal fatigue and help you turn it around!