How is your money mindset?
So many people I work with have issues, blocks or fears that come up for them around money. Issues around worth, deserving, guilt, family patterns, boundaries and so many other things can really hold us back and it’s so useful to work through them. This is why I think the work that Denise Duffield-Thomas does around money is so vital.
Feeling resourceful around money is important.
It’s so easy to go into avoidance or denial, rather than taking the opportunity to learn how to improve your money mindset and to grow a healthy, sustainable relationship with money.
Money provides choices and empowered attitudes around money can have many positive effects. I’m passionate about this, especially as many women (in particular, but men too at times) can find themselves in challenging situations if they hand over their power around money and don’t take control.
I was lucky to have the chance to interview my money mentor Denise Duffield-Thomas about money mindset. She’s my go-to on this topic and has been ever since we met back in 2012. I joined Denise’s money bootcamp at that time. I let my community know I was doing the interview on Instagram + Facebook so you had the chance to share your questions and then asked Denise on your behalf.
I just know you’re going to love my interview with Denise Duffield-Thomas. Watch it here:
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In the interview we talk about Denise’s Money Bootcamp, which I joined back in 2012.
I encourage you to check it out and see if it might be what you need: bit.ly/DeniseMoneyBootcamp
Denise’s Lucky B Money Bootcamp is enrolling for a live round now.
I got to go through the program live when I first joined back in 2012 and there is definitely something awesome about going through a program with a group if you have the opportunity.
Everyone is working through the same exercises in the bootcamp and sharing their learning each step of the way. There are around 3000 members in Denise’s Facebook group for the program now, imagine the energy generated with many of us all going through the program at the same time.
You can take a look at the Bootcamp and sign up here:
Here are some of the questions I asked Denise Duffield-Thomas in our interview.
- Back when we met in 2012, you were busy with clients and you were having good launches for your Money Bootcamp, but then grew your business rapidly to the next level, and have continued to uplevel from there. I see a lot of people get stuck when things are “ok” or “good” and don’t go to the next level. How did you do this?
- How can you manage your mindset when you have limitations on your time – ie doing what’s right for yourself when you have constraints (kids, illness, energy) without feeling like you’re guaranteed to find it hard financially because of that?
- How do you deal with comparison?
- How do you detach from your family money issues and do your own thing? This includes family debt patterns. How to approach it if no matter what you do (save, spend, receive, give, budget, etc.), there is debt. Like a generational karma or similar? What to do when a pattern of debt repeats itself. This pattern seems to be omnipresent within the family members. How do you clear the root cause of this debt, and the beliefs system underneath?
- What are some good boundary tips in regards to having a healthy relationship towards money?
- I would like to know how to break through the yo-yo. For example, I can have a kick A month, but then end up really exhausted and needing a bit of time out and of course my business responds to that by slowing down for the next little while. I would like it to be higher more consistently. I have put staff on to help ease the load, but I am still finding my energy levels can only carry so far.
- What’s the fine line between “pushing” something that’s not meant to be versus working hard at something that’s meant to be but just requires a little more energy to get it over the line. How do you know the difference?
- How can you receive with confidence and really feel like you are adding value to clients?
How Denise has helped me.
As I mentioned, I met Denise Duffield-Thomas back in 2012 and joined her Lucky B Money Boot camp that year. This was after an early rocky time where my (now ex) partner had lost his first job (he went on to lose several more over a two year period before I left for a range of excellent reasons, some of which were money related).
I had many fears and anxieties around money and this situation forced them into sharp focus. I became the breadwinner and really had to focus on growing my earning capacity so I could meet the ever-increasing financial responsibilities I had.
I also became aware that I needed to deal with the fears and anxieties I felt, stop going into denial and avoidance around money, do a lot of forgiveness work to remove the heightened emotion I felt around money-related issues, and get structures in place, such as more efficient book keeping (I got the book keeping system Xero and a book keeper who was a fellow boot camp member!) I committed to consistent savings so I could create my own financial buffer and gained the confidence to uplevel a number of things in my business, enabling me to continue to grow my income.
I made many of these changes (and more) within months of joining the Bootcamp but after being in the group so long, I know how important it is to keep going back and revisiting lessons when blocks come up, and continuing to learn and grow. I still check in with the Facebook group regularly as it’s a constant source of reminders, inspiration and encouragement. It’s also an excellent place to share wins and successes and know you’re guaranteed to to be cheered and supported by others in the group.
Seriously, the money work I have done with Denise has been a vital part of my empowerment and development over the past few years. I can’t state the importance of doing this work highly enough, especially when you know you have money stuff holding you back. If I hadn’t had the courage to work on my own money beliefs, develop strong boundaries around money and take responsibility for my own earning capacity, debt levels (I don’t have any credit card debt but did when I joined the program) and commit to my own savings, even when it was challenging to do so, my life could be looking very different right now, and not for the positive.
If you’d like to go further in developing your money mindset and clearing your own money blocks, take a look at Denise Duffield-Thomas’ Lucky B Money Bootcamp.
Totally recommend it, and of course I’m a proud affiliate. This means I might receive a payment if you use my link and join one of Denise’s paid program at some point. I do the same for my Align + Attract alumni as a way of saying thank you for sharing the love.
What is your biggest takeaway from my interview with Denise Duffield-Thomas?
I’d love to hear! Please go ahead and share in the comments.